Infidelity – Reasons Why Your Spouse May Have an Affair - The Hack Network

Infidelity – broken trust, broken heart, feeling of betrayal, hate, pain, grief, unforgiveness, all these and many more accompany this word. Adultery is, without a doubt, one topic that is not far fetched in relationships and marriages throughout the world today. And often, if you spend time perusing the internet, you must have come across stories on social media, telling how marriages have broken down in shambles due to one cheating spouse or the other. Little wonder people fear to get committed; they fear what will happen if they end up facing trying situations that bother around betrayal.

According to a myth that has been ongoing for decades, “half of all marriages end in divorce,” and they say this myth can only get worse. With infidelity accounting for the leading cause of these rising statistics, how can one get it right? Some surveys suggest that about 60% of men and 40% of women will participate in one or more extramarital affairs during their lifetime – surprising, right?

Move to the Present – When you are with a cheating spouse in your relationship or marriage, well, all the world statistics would mean nothing to you. All you think about is what you ever did to deserve such ill-treatment and complete betrayal. Next is a break up in the works. But how do you make sure your spouse does not cheat? How do you enjoy a happy relationship? Perhaps there are certain tricks to it?

The first thing is to admit that there are reasons why your spouse may have an affair. If you can keep these abreast, you may be able to manage your relationship, act better, and enjoy a healthy relationship.

Here are a couple of reasons why your spouse may have an extra – affair

Ineffective communication

It is a crucial part of every relationship. If you cannot communicate your feeling to your partner, it could lead to more damaging effects than hearsay would. It could just be that your spouse has figured out that they are not compatible with you. It could be the way you address them in public, some form of pride and arrogance on display, how about that bad breath that you seem to be ignoring? Have they fallen “out of love” or lost interest in what attracted you both in the first place? Communicate! Ask questions! Bring the matter to the table!

Also, avoid struggling with your problems all by yourself. Let your spouse in on all you are facing and draw strength from their love and feelings towards you. Irrespective of the situation, try to be honest, open, and effective communication with your partner. It is the only way you can ultimately hit the “happy goals” of your relationship. If you fail to communicate with your partner, there is someone out there that is more than willing to fill in the gap, and that’s how infidelity may creep in.

Queer expression of anger

Sometimes, you may find yourself experiencing anger you never knew you were capable of feeling. This type of outburst is inevitable when you have strong feelings for your spouse and also comes with jealously. If you are unable to express your anger appropriately, it could have a daring effect on the foundation of your relationship. Your spouse may start feeling insecure and eventually lose belief in you. You can get mad at your spouse, but anger expressed in a negative manner (such as the use of abusive words and violence) could be the cause of your failing relationship.

Denial of an existing problem

Often, relationships hit rock bottom due to the rejection of the possibility of issues existing. As they say, if you can identify a problem, you are halfway through the solution. More so, if you can understand the problem without bias, you are simply genius (lol). When there is a problem, face the issue squarely. Remember that the fight is not between “you and your partner”; it is merely against the existing problem. Avoid playing the “blame game” – if you are wrong, accept responsibility for your actions. It only makes it easier to deal with it. Sometimes denying an existing problem may push your spouse right into an affair.

Frustration and Lack of Emotional Satisfaction

Many factors lead to a spouse having an affair, and one common trigger is frustration. A partner may start feeling frustrated when they feel like they are getting less attention in the relationship. When you have misplaced priorities in your relationship, your partner may start feeling less loved, and that need for emotional closeness may drive them to have an affair outside the relationship. It is pertinent to pay attention to your primary partner’s emotional needs and do your best to satisfy at all times.

Lack of sexual satisfaction

This should be one of the most common reasons cited by people who cheat when asked. Some surveys show that both men and women who have affairs outside their relationship do that to improve their sexual lives. For whatever reason, your relationship’s sexual experience is not working out for your partner. Take your time to study your partner; if your partner loves to try out new things, spice your relationship up with new sexual encounters. Yet again, communicate with your partner, be open to new suggestions, and be willing to try new things. This way, your partner may not need to look outside.

Infidelity, extramarital affairs, cheating as you may want to call it don’t just happen. They may be the end product of the underlying need for connection, love, desire. There is more to relationships than just “the love factor” You can only hit the happy milestones when you are willing to make adjustments for and listen to one another. There are different ways to handle infidelity. You can hire experts to be sure if your spouse is cheating and gathering evidence. You can also enroll in couples counselling.


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